Friday, April 4, 2014

D is for Death & There's also advice and a Cover reveal

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State of day. A to Z blogging challenge is going pretty well (for now :P) and it’s loads of fun too, Sheena-kay on Queensheena mentions a character every day, yesterday she talked about no other than Carlisle Cullen my favorite Vampire, needless to say I made a fuss about it. also, my no.1 blogger on this challenge so far is Crystal Collier some influential people and historical facts, right up my alley, better check it out if you're into such things too.

O-O . Can you believe it was only yesterday that I found out CharityBradford’s theme for the challenge is Dr Who?!! (invisible indefinite exclamation marks) I’m really mad for missing this one, at least we’re only in the fourth letter.

Something Extra. Natalie Whipple this week dived in and came out with a no-nonsense advice about writing. Worth reading.   

First The Cover Reveal. Michelle Merrill is a blogger I just discovered also and the blurb of her book Changing Fate seemed inspiring, so I decided I should help spreading the word about it too. 

Book Blurb:

All Kate wants is to live. Battling cystic fibrosis is hard enough, dying from it is even harder. When her mom moves them closer to the hospital in the middle of her senior year, Kate’s determined to isolate herself—saving everyone the trouble of befriending a dying girl. It’s a difficult task when cheerful optimist Giana insists on being Kate’s friend.

Kate’s resolve falters even more when curly-haired Kyler captivates her with his sweet melodies. As her emotional walls collapse, Kate realizes the people she’s been pushing away may be the ones giving her a reason to live. But it might be too late.

Nice right? :) (I just realized this blurb goes perfectly with my D subject for today!)

Now here’s the cover :)

Changing Fate is self-published and it will be available on May 8, 2014.

Time for D = Death

I recently re-watched Sense and Sensibility, the one with Emma Thompson, KateWinslet and Alan Rickman. I love this film, what’s not to love? it's Jane! attractive language, grand houses, wonderful scenery, romance, humor and sisters’ love. Never finished the book though, but it’s on the long list for this year.
Except, this time something changed. There’s this one scene where -before it- the doctor tells Elinor to expect the worse regarding the health of her younger sister Marianne who was suffering from a dangerous fever, she only looks at him with a silent shock on her eyes and I understand what she’s thinking, I start feeling for her, the doctor then leaves and she begin talking to her unconscious sister, with great misery and fear saying things like “you have to try” and you can’t leave me all alone”

This time this scene doesn't pass me by, I cry with her, I know how she feels.

You see, after my uncle died back in 2011 my relationship to death shifted completely. Never again will I treat death with such passiveness like it will never happen to the ones I care about. After the shock of my uncle’s sudden death, a man I knew very well and held nothing for but love and respect, I finally understood a my friends and relatives who told me how they cry on a death scene in a movie or in funerals because it reminds them of their own loss, even if it was years ago. I used to find it ridiculous.
I don’t anymore.
Because now I know.
It isn’t a joke anymore, you just tap into this gloomy emotion unconsciously once you hear about the subject, days ago I talked about the untimely death of Ami, I never met the respectable young women yet the news of her death hurt me so, it still does, I used to always see her  smiling and beautiful in her photos, like her whole life is ahead of her and I was like ‘is she really that sick?’ and then BAM. Tears came to my eyes and a strong feeling of sadness overwhelmed me, it star-rockets on you as they say, you are broken after such an experience and frankly you will never be fixed again. 

After my uncle some other key people in the family passed away, people I used to think were immune to time’s decay, were ever existing like the river Nile.
I just keep looking at my aging parents and think with great despair when will their day come? I’m not a young girl anymore I’m a women and people are already falling around me like dominoes. I can’t save them from their fate, and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it.
But of course it’s a toxic way of thinking, what I can do is spend more time with my loved ones and get to know them better and treasure our moments together. 
And I can also pray :)

Thank you.
Hoping to meet you tomorrow.


  1. The lovely thing about blogging is you can go back and see the rest of Charity's posts. (I've been enjoying her Doctor Who theme as well.)

    I saw a commercial a while back that said on average we attend eight funerals in our lifetime. At the time I was right on track. Now I've passed that number. Death hits us all eventually.

    1. I passed that number too. So true :| death will hit us all.

  2. Thanks so much for mentioning me and Carlisle is a gem. Crystal's theme is great and she did Walt Disney for D which is my fave one for the day. Michelle's cover looks lovely. Do you have a link for her blog or website if she has one?

    The only grandmother I knew died in my teens and then both my father's parents died. Yeah I learned early that death can come for anyone. Plus in my adult years my cousin Andre died after being shot. Dang I have a tragic family. OK I'll stop depressing/scaring you and go.

    1. No problem ^_^ and I liked the Walt Disney choice for D too. I did tie Michelle's blog link to her name but I'll write it here for you as well:

      and don't worry you are not scaring me or anything, I got some stories of that kind too.

    2. Aw! I'm glad you liked it so much, Sheena-kay.

  3. Thank you so much for the shout, Haneen. You are so sweet!

    I think parents who shelter their kids from death, do them a great disservice. I grew up attending funerals for neighbors and relatives, and it made for a healthy understanding of life and probably helped cure me of any fear of the elderly. It's hard to lose close loved ones, but I believe we will see them again, and that they watch over us from unseen realms. =)